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Premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation is ejaculation that occurs immediately prior to or just
after insertion of the penis into the partner, without any sense of voluntary control.
It is a common sexual phenomenon, occurring in approximately one-third of men under 25,
and in about 10 percent of men older than 25.
General causes of premature ejaculation
include overstimulation, anxiety over sexual performance, and stress. But it is
also seen as a potentially conditioned response. For example, if a man's
earliest sexual experiences were situations that might have required rapid
ejaculation, or where rapid ejaculation was encouraged, then it may have become a
learned habit. Another element leading to premature ejaculation is a male's lack of
awareness of the preliminary sensations that lead to orgasm, making him unable to
control the process leading to ejaculation.
Stopping and starting
Many men that ask for help in prolonging their coital experiences never even consider
the possibility of interrupting intercourse in order to prolong their sexual tension.
Love-making can be a very deep and detailed experience, and doesn't merely have
to be intercourse alone. Once you are about to reach the point of no return, try
withdrawing and stimulating your partner for a while by masturbating her or
performing cunnilingus. Of course, you should talk with them before you engage
in sexual activity so you know what she likes and is willing to let you try.
Once you've stimulated her for a while, and given your organ a chance to settle
down a bit from lack of direct stimulation, resume intercourse. Stop again once
you get too excited, and repeat the process as long as you want. Women often take
much longer to reach a climax than men in the first place, so increasing your
stamina can help even out the field and help both of you enjoy sex even more.
Foreplay and sexual positions
Often couples will engage in extremely erotic foreplay, which leads into
the most stimulating sexual positions for both couples. If you find yourself
getting too excited because your pace is much too fast, just slow down. Take
time to enjoy every little aspect of the love-making experience with your partner.
Talking, cuddling, kissing, and messages can all serve to slow things down and help
both of you get closer to each other sexually and emotionally as you enjoy the
total sexual experience.
Squeeze it
Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, try withdrawing fully or
partially and squeezing the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and
index finger around it, applying firm pressure. You can also have her do this
if she wants. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response,
but be sure to apply it before you start ejaculating, once you start its too late!
You can also try applying this technique just under the head of the penis. Once
the urge to purge has subsided a bit, resume intercourse for a while and see if it is helping you.
Condoms
Many couples claim that wearing condoms lessens the feeling and sensitivity of
intercourse substantially for both of them, so if you aren't wearing them to
protect yourself, try wearing them to increase your stamina.
Masturbate
Perhaps the best method for releasing tension and increasing sexual
stamina involves masturbating before a sexual experience. Don't do it
RIGHT before you have sex, but for example if you are going to go see her,
masturbate a few hours before you'll be having sex.
Combinations
Using just one of these techniques can easily become tiresome after
a while. Try using different techniques to slow yourself down
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